Who is Sophia May?

When I was growing up, family was always central to everything and I learned it is one of the most important support systems we have. This support system was tested early on in my life after my dad became terminally ill with Lupus. Having him sick for three years created a tremendous amount of stress for me and my family, as every day felt as though we were living on borrowed time and treading uncharted territory. But throughout his illness, my family and I were surrounded by the most supportive doctors, friends, and family members that made venturing into the unknown, that much less terrifying. Unfortunately, my dad lost his battle when I was thirteen, and it will forever be an experience that shaped the way I view my life and the relationships in it. 

When I initially entered California State University, San Marcos, I wanted to go into the medical field and work in biotechnology to develop medical devices. But a few calculus and chemistry classes later, the rose-colored glasses fell off. Even after switching my major, I still had the desire to help people and their families navigate the struggles in their life. 

During the end of my junior year, I discovered my school’s paralegal program which sparked my interest in the legal field, and how it could marry my want to both help others, and satisfy my brain’s need to sift and process data. Now being a part of West Coast Family Mediation Center, I am excited to bring relationships to the forefront of what I do, to reassure families they are in the best hands, and to help take the guesswork out of the process. 

When I’m not at work, I can be found on the golf course, getting in a workout at the gym, or simply watching a movie at home with my husband.


Why mediation?

Looking back I have always been drawn to mediation and the desire to be fair to everyone since I was a child. Growing up, I was always willing to share and make sure everyone was having a good time and if someone wasn’t happy, I’d be the first to suggest an alternative because to me, other people’s feelings matter equally to mine. Now as an adult, I carry the same philosophy and want to be in a field of work that helps others create solutions that are a win-win to everyone involved. There are very few things that are one hundred percent black and white and require an all or nothing approach and believe that relationships, no matter the stage they are in, do not fall into this category.

What I want clients to know

The biggest takeaway I can give to our clients is that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, and our team is here to make sure you and your family feel as comfortable and informed throughout the process as possible. After having watched my dad’s health deteriorate, I know just how hopeless things can feel, especially when you don’t know what tomorrow brings. But if there is anything to remember, we are all here to be your guiding light throughout the process to help you and your spouse reach agreements that last well into the future.

I know this is a difficult time in our clients’ lives, and they are putting a great amount of trust in would be strangers, and I want them to know I have a great amount of empathy and compassion for each couple that comes through the office. I am often the first person a couple interacts with when they first discover us and want them to feel secure in knowing they have found a place that understands that each couple is unique with individual needs and will do our best to meet those needs.

About Amanda Singer

Services highlight: premarital mediation

I enjoy working with couples before they get married through the following services:

  • Premarital Mediation: I want to give you the tools to have a healthy relationship and start your marriage off on solid ground so that you will never end up back in my office for a divorce. If we can help you improve your communication now, before you face challenges, then you’ll be able to work together to problem-solve.
  • Premarital Financial Planning: the most significant issue we see in couples getting divorced has to do with finances. Too many couples never took the time before getting married to discuss their spending and saving habits, their debt, credit scores, and their thoughts on money.
  • Prenuptial (Premarital) Agreements: without a prenup, if you get divorced, the Family Law of the state of California prevails, which you and your spouse might not agree with. Putting down on paper how you both want to handle your separate and community property provides an opportunity to have control “in case of emergency” (divorce). Having a prenup can also reduce future conflicts since you have already hashed out details in your agreements.

Let us know how our team of expert mediators can help you